Ask the Staff: Winter Grief
Q. How do I survive through the winter months with my grief?
A. It is true, winter is a difficult time of the year for many people dealing with loss and grief because it is a time when the world freezes over—many times we feel that our hearts have also frozen over with feelings of loneliness and isolation. It is also a time when the tilling of the land ceases in our gardens and in our flowers. Thus, the activities that we found solace and comfort in outside are no more for a period of time. And we retreat inside, much like the bears do to hibernate. With that hibernation, activities and reflection can be internalized. We often find more time to clean and organize, but that really does not provide the deep-seated need for peace and consolation in dealing with the grief and loss.
May I suggest a couple of activities that you may find helpful in dealing with your loss? One suggestion would be that you buy yourself a journal—usually no more than $5—and begin writing about the memories of your loved one, or even develop a scrapbook of you and your loved one's life together. In memories, many times I have found solace and peace even in the midst of the isolation of the world around me. While you place those pictures succinctly in your scrapbook, it also never hurts to listen to the music that your loved one enjoyed throughout their life. You see, the winter outside can never douse the flames of the love that you and your loved one shared—that love continues on. I Corinthians 13:7 says it like this: "Love beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, and endureth all things."
―Saundra Yates, Bereavement Coordinator/Chaplain (Mount Airy Office)
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