It can be quite frightening to explore the recesses of your mind and talk about what you find. However, if you intend to make any real progress in your grief work, it is a necessary task. Only then can you can learn the truth that is buried underneath the surface of your thoughts. You can learn what you are really afraid of. You can make meaning out of all the confusion that you are feeling.
Take your thoughts and sit with them. Ask questions of your thoughts, such as why you feel you can’t let go. What would happen if you did let go? Play out the scenario to its logical conclusion and you are likely to be surprised at what you discover. An example might be that you feel stuck in a particular situation. You know you need to move, let go of material things, and set boundaries with others. The list goes on and on, but you just can’t seem to make a decision to move forward. Why? What would happen? What is it that you fear?
Most of us are afraid of change. We are afraid of the unknown, so we settle in the land of sorrow. At least here we know what to expect. And then there is that “guilt” thing to contend with. What if you pressed past your fear, let go of your guilt, and stepped beyond your comfort zone? It is in this space that healing takes place. Not immediately or all at once. It is a process like everything else in life. However, it is worth the effort.
—Stacie Adams, Bereavement Coordinator (Mount Airy Office)
Mountain Valley Hospice & Palliative Care offers free grief support to the community at large. For more information, contact us today at 336-789-2922 (toll-free 1-888-789-2922).
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