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Handling Costs of a Terminal Cancer Diagnosis

Tuesday September 25, 2018

In the face of terminal illness, there are ways for your and your family to be financially prepared. 

Protecting Your Financial Future After the Loss of Your Spouse

Friday July 13, 2018

When you're grieving the loss of your spouse, dealing with financial matters is probably the last thing on your mind. Yet while you're grappling with the major changes to your own life, one of those changes includes the financial decisions that must be made right away, along with planning for your financial future. This guide will walk you through everything, so that it's less overwhelming when the time comes.

My Mother's Eyes

Wednesday May 23, 2018

My mother had green eyes, as do my children and I. Her eyes live on through us. Some days, I’m careful not to stare too long at the mirror or gaze into the eyes of my sons. Other days, it can bring comfort. Memories are fickle things that way. 

Broken Crayons Still Color

Wednesday May 23, 2018

Broken crayons still color, and broken people are still useful.

Broken Together

Wednesday May 23, 2018

It is okay to ask for help. Grief is something everyone in this world experiences. You are not alone in this journey. We are all broken together.

The Butterfly in Spring

Thursday April 5, 2018

In springtime, I think about the pretty butterflies I often see flying around. Butterflies have long been known as a symbol of rebirth, renewal and happiness. They remind us of how beautiful, delicate and fragile life is. They also teach us to appreciate our loved ones and to be grateful for every moment we have with them.

My Nana's Anger

Thursday April 5, 2018

My grandmother was the sweetest woman I had ever known until Papa died. A couple of weeks after his death, Nana changed. She became an ill-tempered woman who was very angry at Papa — or rather, angry that he died.

When the Music Stops

Thursday April 5, 2018

Don't settle for the silence when you were created for the symphony.

Helping a Senior Friend through Grief

Thursday April 5, 2018

You consider yourself a good friend, but when someone's spouse dies, you can be at a loss for what to say or do. When you're talking about a senior losing their spouse, things can be even harder. After all, your friend depended on their spouse for many years.

What Being a Chaplain Taught Me about Grief

Thursday March 15, 2018

As a chaplain who has worked in hospitals, hospice, rehabilitation/skilled facilities, and retirement facilities, I have come in contact with many individuals experiencing loss and grief. Along the way, I have learned a few things that I would like to share about how individuals experience grief.

The Spiritual Dimension of Health Care

Thursday March 15, 2018

Jesus said, "Blessed are those who mourn." From this we can see that Jesus congratulated those whose sensitivity to loss and pain makes it possible for them to mourn. The emotions of grief and loss are authentic and appropriate responses to death and tragedy.

Why Wasn’t Loved One Healed?

Thursday March 15, 2018

You prayed for your loved one to be healed physically. But now you're wondering why that healing never came. You prayed for your loved one to be healed physically. But now you're wondering why that healing never came. Perhaps you're asking, "Did God not hear my prayers? If He did, why could He not grant this one request?" 

The Importance of Self-Care

Wednesday February 14, 2018

Self-care is often an overlooked aspect of your needs when you are caregiving and grieving your loss, respectively. You may have been so busy that you didn't give self-care a thought. But now as your life is changing and the pace is slowing down, you may be experiencing some clues from your body, mind and spirit that it is time to pay attention to yourself. 

Helping a Spouse through the Grieving Process

Wednesday February 14, 2018

When our spouse is sick or injured, we try to help them and provide assistance in their journey to getting well. Some things come naturally for us as wives and husbands, like preparing soup or helping with daily activities. However, there are some situations where the ways to support our spouse are not as black-and-white.

Dating & Remarriage

Wednesday February 14, 2018

Do you feel guilty when you think about dating? It's perfectly normal to feel some guilt at the thought of going out with someone and having fun. You may even feel a bit guilty at the start of a new relationship, but you are not betraying your loved one by dating again.

Happy Is the One Who Grieves Aloud

Wednesday January 3, 2018

Mourn your loss out loud. Do not succumb to the pressure to be okay when, in reality, you are not. Happy is the one who grieves out loud, for in mourning, they find comfort of body, mind, and soul. 

When Grief Is Complicated by Mental Illness

Wednesday January 3, 2018

Rarely does anything in life happen in isolation. Most of us are juggling multiple things at any given time. This is also true of the grief process. We are not afforded the luxury of having the world around us come to a stop while we mourn our loss. This includes our inner world as well.

Grandma's Gifts

Wednesday January 3, 2018

New York City's Times Square. Confetti is falling, horns are blaring, and people are cheering, as the countdown to the start of another year begins: "Five. Four. Three. Two. One. HAPPY NEW YEAR!" The big glittering ball drops 2017 to its resting place in history as strains of "Auld Lang Syne" (translated to mean "Days of Long Ago") are heard throughout the crowd. But in your heart, there are no cheers, no confetti, and no singing. Your loved one died and you feel as if the "ball" landed on your chest, taking away your breath. What can you do to find courage for a new year, to face each day with assurance?

Celebrating Old Memories in the New Year

Wednesday January 3, 2018

As we move into the new year, we always think about resolutions that we promise to accomplish. However, many people forget their resolutions after January. Resolutions, as they say, are "a dime a dozen," but when we look back over the past year, we recognize that people are not.

When Grief Hits the Holidays

Monday December 18, 2017

For most people, this is a period of time devoted to family, people we love, and celebrations. What if this upcoming holiday season won't bring those things? What if this upcoming holiday season means a series of firsts without your wife, sibling, child, or any other person whom you loved deeply?

Holiday Healing

Monday December 18, 2017

For many people, the holiday season is a special time marked by celebrations and gatherings with family and friends. However, those who have experienced a loss often find it to be the most difficult part of the year.

All I Want for Christmas

Monday December 18, 2017

The greatest gift you can give your grieving child is not a present, but your presence. Even in their pain, kids need moments to just be kids and be held. They need to see the Christmas tree replace the hospital bed. They still want to enjoy opening gifts and gathering with family even if someone they love is missing. 

Grieving During the Holidays

Friday December 1, 2017

Your television, your social media and your friends are all encouraging you to "get into the season" and "be merry and bright." However, you might be having a hard time embracing the holiday season this year, especially if you've recently lost someone near and dear to your heart.

Moving Forward

Friday November 17, 2017

Many people feel guilty about moving forward after the death of a loved one. There are many questions: Is it okay to laugh? Is it okay to smile? Is it okay to continue living life? Why do I feel guilty when I start to live again? These questions are normal and a part of the process of moving forward that numerous people face. 

MVHPC to host Celebrations of Life memorial services

Wednesday November 8, 2017

The Bereavement Department of Mountain Valley Hospice & Palliative Care will host its annual Celebrations of Life memorial services across the organization's service area on December 7 at 6:00 p.m.


Tuesday November 7, 2017

At this time of the year, we are ever aware of the changes that are occurring around us. How quickly the months pass us by! Then comes the cooler weather with rain, wind, falling leaves and, of course, snow. All of this makes us feel cold and raw, like our emotions when experiencing a loss.

A Thanksgiving Dilemma

Tuesday November 7, 2017

The way each family celebrates a holiday after the death of a loved one is up to them. What works for one family may not work for another family. The best thing to do is to talk with your relatives, let them know what you can and cannot do this year.

Welcome Home

Tuesday November 7, 2017

True to my story of arriving home safely from the dark night of travel in the main streets of my Florida hometown, we are also promised to arrive safely on the other side of our dark night of the soul.

The Angry Side of Grief

Wednesday October 11, 2017

Maybe you've been angry all the time lately—angry at friends, angry at God, angry at yourself, and even angry at your deceased loved one. You want to blame someone for your loved one’s death, but you don't know whom. Anger is a normal part of the grieving process.

The Nose Knows

Wednesday October 11, 2017

Sights, sounds, and smells that we associate with people are parts of everyday life. Many times, we don't pay much attention to them until a family member or friend is no longer with us. It is during our grieving that certain senses are heightened and come to the forefront, and we feel as though we are not normal. We are. We simply want to be close to our dads, moms, sons, daughters, spouses, or friends, and that is okay.

Shut the Door Behind You When You Go

Wednesday October 11, 2017

She came into the office and took her seat opposite me. Unacquainted, we exchanged small talk before beginning the journey together. I asked her to tell me her story. She paused pensively, as if standing outside peeking into the windows of her own memories.

Putting the Pieces Back Together

Wednesday October 11, 2017

When I see the plate, it reminds me of my grandmother and the special relationship I had with her. But the plate has additional significance for me as well...

Beautiful in Its Time

Wednesday October 11, 2017

God has created our world in such a way that we have seasonal changes. We begin to feel a coolness in the air, and the leaves begin to change their colors and eventually fall to the ground, leading into the chill of winter. Grief is much like this in our lives.

The Hope within Grief & Mourning

Wednesday October 11, 2017

In today's world, we are all joined together in the common bond of grief to remember those for whom it was their time to leave this world. None of us are alone. Although we grieve for different people, our grief is shared. A Honduran proverb says, "Grief shared is half grief."

When You’re Unable to Attend a Loved One's Funeral

Thursday August 10, 2017

Coping with the loss of a loved one never is easy. If you are unable to attend the funeral and spend time with family in-person during this emotional time, it becomes even more difficult to manage your grief. Here is how to deal with being unable to attend a loved one's funeral.

Relief after Caregiving

Thursday August 10, 2017

You cared for your spouse night and day for months or even years. It was a full-time job without pay or vacation time. Your heart ached as you watched your spouse suffer. After all, you loved—and still love—him or her with all your heart. Hence, perhaps you were shocked that when your spouse passed away, your first feelings were those of relief. Was that a normal reaction?

Is This Grief or Something More?

Thursday August 10, 2017

The loss of a loved one is a difficult, emotionally-charged time and can be associated with a wide range of feelings and experiences that can feel like a roller coaster ride. Much of what you experience is the normal and expected response to loss, and allowing yourself to experience these emotions, which may not always be pleasant, can help you progress through the grieving process.

Spouse Tells Me to 'Get Over' My Loss

Tuesday July 18, 2017

When grieving, some people find their spouses can be, at times, almost emotionally vacant to their needs. Perhaps your spouse has even said those infamous words: "get over it." No matter how much support one has from other individuals, the lack of support from one's spouse can intensify grief and blind one to other bereavement resources.

Coping Mechanisms for Facing a Loved One's Death

Tuesday July 18, 2017

When we lose someone we love, one of the hardest challenges can be dealing with the emotions and feelings from that loss. To find comfort, people often choose to resort to addictions that they have used in the past, such as food, alcohol, or drugs. In reality, this just complicates the loss and masks the pain temporarily. In an effort to avoid these pitfalls, I would like to provide a few alternatives in dealing with the loss of life.

Grief Is Like an Ocean

Tuesday July 18, 2017

Grief is like an ocean. The water touching your toes can be like memories touching your soul—easy to think about, even relaxing. The sunrise over the ocean is like the beautiful life you shared with your loved one. The sound of the waves crashing on the shore can be as sweet as the laughs you used to share. The seashells lying along the beach are like the little-but-significant things that your loved one left behind that are so special to you.

Grief Is Like a Cross Stitch

Friday March 31, 2017

As I think about loss and loneliness, I am reminded of the cross stitch that I enjoy working on from time to time. I like to compare loss and loneliness to the darker colors of the fabric that encircle the masterpiece I am trying so desperately to create.

Looking for a City, Life in the Light

Thursday March 2, 2017

What will life in the light be like? It will be heaven on earth.

Looking for a City, Land of Our Dreams

Friday January 27, 2017

Scripture teaches that our wildest imaginations can't compare to what's waiting for us.

Handling Grief on Valentine’s Day

Friday January 27, 2017

You carry your loved one's heart with you wherever you go, within your own heart. Celebrate that love, for it was truly better to have had their loving presence for a short while than to have never had it at all.

A Different Kind of Valentine’s Day

Friday January 27, 2017

Valentine's Day is often overlooked as a difficult holiday to get through after the loss of a spouse or significant other. For a new widow or widower, the day that seems reserved for couples-only can be especially hard. While it's true that you won't celebrate the same way you always have, Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about romantic love, and it doesn't have to be a holiday exclusively for couples. It provides an opportunity to express love and appreciation to those around you.

Looking for a City, Longing for Home

Monday January 2, 2017

The sun splashed an abstract portrait of orange and purple onto the skyline as night prepared to close the curtain on another day. My long-awaited vacation had arrived, yet a faint voice still whispered I had not.My heart knew what my mind refused to concede. Paradise was at my fingertips but home was still out of reach.

How to Know When a Child Is Grieving

Monday January 2, 2017

Quite often, adults are afraid to discuss death and dying with children due to fear that it will make them sad or upset. I have found that sharing information with a soft language and at a level that children can understand actually alleviates their fears and enables them to adapt to the situation more readily.     

The Empty Chair

Tuesday December 13, 2016

It's Christmas Day and there’s an empty chair at the table.


Tuesday December 13, 2016

At Christmas time, especially, I think it is challenging to rejoice when we are experiencing the heaviness of grief. 

Giving Thanks in All Circumstances

Tuesday November 1, 2016

On days when life runs smoothly, I find it easy to praise God for all the glorious things that He does. On days when things don't go according to my plan, I'm learning how far I still have to go. I have found this to be especially true when grieving the loss of a loved one.

Alone Together

Tuesday November 1, 2016

Grief can feel like a sentence to solitary confinement. But do not fall for that misconception. You are not alone.

What Now?

Monday October 10, 2016

As I have experienced during my own losses and have seen with friends' and patients' families, I think the most difficult time comes after the memorials are finished.

I Want a Paved Road!

Tuesday August 9, 2016

I think of my daughter every single day. I miss her every single day. It is different now than in the beginning. In the beginning, I felt as if I were walking barefoot on an old country gravel road. I never knew when a sharp rock of grief was going to pop up and tear open a new wound.

Digging Deep

Tuesday August 9, 2016

It can be quite frightening to explore the recesses of your mind and talk about what you find. However, if you intend to make any real progress in your grief work, it is a necessary task. Only then can you can learn the truth that is buried underneath the surface of your thoughts.

Perchance to Dream

Thursday July 14, 2016

I have a recurring dream. Each time, its setting is different, but the ending is always the same.

Telling Your Story

Friday June 10, 2016

Do you ever feel like people are tired of hearing you talk about your loved one and telling your story?

Ask the Staff: Length of the Grieving Process?

Friday May 13, 2016

How long does the grieving process last?


Friday May 13, 2016

One of the most common themes in conversations with grieving people is the question, "What do I do with my loved one's stuff?" It seems that most of us are left with not only our loved ones' personal objects, but also emotional items as well.

A Primer on Grief

Friday May 13, 2016

Dealing effectively and positively with grief caused by such a loss is important to your recovery process as well as your ability to continue with and fulfill your own life for the better.

Grief Support for Mother’s Day

Saturday May 7, 2016

Mother's Day can be a difficult day for some, from a child who has lost their mother to a mother who has lost her child. Here are five recent articles that we hope will provide comfort.

Finding Motivation While Grieving

Monday April 11, 2016

The loss of motivation is one of the most common aspects of grief. It is challenging to continue our normal routines and daily activities when our hearts and minds just don’t feel up to it.

Discovering the Mystery of God in Pain & Suffering

Sunday April 10, 2016

There is one concern that surfaces quite often, regardless of whether it is voiced out loud: "Where is God in all of this?" Some try to offer answers quickly, but those answers may not be sufficient for us. It is hard to live in the mystery of God because we have to deal with questions like: Is God only what our theologies say God can be? Can God only work like we think God should act?

Ask the Staff: Loved Ones Look Down from Heaven?

Sunday April 10, 2016

Do our loved ones look down on us from Heaven?

Understanding Your Grief

Tuesday March 1, 2016

Grieving is one of the most unique experiences we endure throughout our lives. We not only grieve our loved ones, we grieve during our own dying experience. Bereavement brings along confusing and conflicting emotions such as helplessness, worry, fear, guilt, failure, relief, happiness, and sadness. We feel overwhelmed, as if the world has crumbled at our feet. The relationship that we had has ended and we are displaced from a role that is important to us. There is a hole in our being that yearns for our loved one.

Will We Know Our Loved Ones in Heaven?

Tuesday March 1, 2016

Will we know our loved ones in Heaven?

Ask the Staff: Scripture for Grief

Friday February 19, 2016

What are your favorite Bible verses for providing comfort to those who are grieving?

Ali Benjamin on "The Thing About Jellyfish"

Tuesday February 16, 2016

Author Ali Benjamin speaks about her New York Times bestseller The Thing About Jellyfish, in which a grief-stricken 12-year-old sets out to find the cause of her best friend's death.

Ask the Staff: Winter Grief

Monday January 18, 2016

How do I survive through the winter months with my grief?

How to Know When a Child Is Grieving

Monday January 18, 2016

When working with children, I will quite often use a workbook that illustrates the four seasons, discussing how each season relates to the different phases of life. The children always catch on very quickly and are eager to point out the similarities. I enjoy working with them for this reason.

Ask the Staff: Finding the Light at Christmas

Wednesday December 23, 2015

How can I celebrate and be festive during Christmas when I have lost a loved one this year?

"Never"-Lists and Freedom from the Ultimate Fail

Wednesday November 25, 2015

Receive wisdom from the "Never"-lists, but don't let them paralyze you ever again!

Ask the Staff: Thankful for the Memories

Wednesday November 25, 2015

At this time of the year, when everyone is thinking about being thankful, what do I have to be thankful for since my loved one has died?

Tammy McDonald on "Conquering the Grief That Stole Christmas"

Monday November 23, 2015

Certified Life Coach Tammy McDonald shares why she wrote Conquering the Grief That Stole Christmas and the importance of rebuilding one's life after loss

Hospice Headlines: Nov. 15-21, 2015

Sunday November 22, 2015

Noteworthy articles on health care and grief support from this week.

Dwight Fletcher talks "Time on the Cross"

Wednesday November 18, 2015

Author and Spearfish, Inc. CEO Dwight Fletcher talks about his debut book, Time on the Cross: A Father's Tribute, detailing the all-too-brief life of his son Brian and the grief that followed.

Hospice Headlines: Nov. 8–14, 2015

Saturday November 14, 2015

Noteworthy articles on health care and grief support from this week.

Hospice Headlines: Nov. 1 - 7, 2015

Saturday November 7, 2015

Noteworthy articles on health care and grief support from this week.

Sheila Hamilton on "All the Things We Never Knew"

Monday November 2, 2015

Journalist and radio personality Sheila Hamilton kindly participated in an email interview with Mountain Valley Hospice, to reflect on her new book, All the Things We Never Knew, as well as grief in general.

Hospice Headlines: Oct. 25 - 31, 2015

Friday October 30, 2015

Noteworthy articles on health care and grief support from this week.

It’s Not About Being a Perfect Griever

Tuesday October 27, 2015

After being in the bereavement field for more than two years, I don’t know how many times I have heard, “Am I doing this right?”, “Am I grieving the right way?” or “How do I compare to others?” There is no right or wrong answer to these questions, for we all grieve in our own way and in our own time. [Continued...]

Gifts of Healing

Tuesday September 1, 2015

My grandmother, Mary, was a beautiful woman who always had time — time for her children, friends, and grandchildren (all 26 of them). [Continued...]