One of the most common themes in conversations with grieving people is the question, "What do I do with my loved one's stuff?" It seems that most of us are left with not only our loved ones' personal objects, but also emotional items as well. Sometimes it is our attachment to the "stuff" while other times it is our attachment to the person that inhibits our ability to let go.
There is no specified amount of time for cleaning out. For some people, it may seem right to give things away soon after your loved one is gone. For others, you may feel as if you will never be ready. That is okay. There is no right or wrong answer.
Perhaps you think that you may be holding onto the "stuff" as a way of remaining connected to your loved one but you would really like to let some material possessions go. If so, consider other ways of maintaining a sense of connectedness. You may consider a renewed sense of relationship through your spiritual connection, or perhaps a small flower garden. If you are crafty, you may consider making a quilt from some of your loved one's clothing. There are also patterns for square pillows out of t-shirts and bears out of button-up shirts (for instructions, visit pinterest.com/mvhpc/grief-support).
I assure you that by letting go of things, you are not letting go of your loved one. Their memory will live on in your heart forever.
—Stacie Adams, Bereavement Coordinator (Mount Airy Office)
Mountain Valley Hospice & Palliative Care offers free grief support to the community at large. For more information, contact us today at 336-789-2922 (toll-free 1-888-789-2922).
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